This article originally posted on refinery29.com.
How NOT To Be Awkward At Parties: 6 Outfits That Save The Day
“Claiming that we’re “awkward” is probably our go-to way to self-deprecate. It’s simply because we’ve all been that girl — the one who’s holding so many hors d’oeuvres she doesn’t have a spare limb to shake a stranger’s hand. Or, the one who can’t walk across a room without spilling her beverage, and for whom the term “small talk” makes her wince. And, this time of year — the Olympics of social gatherings — our graces are really put to the test.
Well, we’re putting our hard-learned lessons to better use: helping you navigate the holiday party circuit with a few clever style solutions. Yes, your outfit can help. There are accessories so cool they’re automatic icebreakers, clothes that will hide a margarita dribble, and other precautionary measures that are so much more than fancy and festive. Read on and ease those nerves, party girl.
The Smooth Mover
Let’s kick it off with the simplest of soiree-snafu solutions: The pretty party flats.
If you’re not the heel-wearing kind of girl during the day, there’s no pressure to step outside your comfort zone come playtime.
Plus, take into consideration what the night could have in store:
Will you be strolling from one shindig to the next? Will there even be anywhere to sit?
If you foresee yourself being the girl who’s hobbling around unhappily, a grounded pair of party shoes —
think metallic cap toes, glittery fabrics, bold colors — will be your sole mate.
You can hardly finish a cocktail or pop a few apps into your mouth without the evidence showing up on your clothes.
While your dry cleaner may love you for it, being a messy eater isn’t so great for soft, solid colors or, ya know, Instagram.
If you’re a chronic spiller, opt for busy prints that will hide any drops or smears.
And, for those who expect to be around a more rambunctious crowd,
look to incorporate easy-to-clean-up materials like patent leather or even a bit of PVC.
The Dancing Queen
When the DJ finally plays your jam, all bets are off.
Arms and legs are a-flailing, your shimmy is next-level, and the old “dance like no one’s watching” trope becomes a bit too true.
And, while short or loose hems may lead to accidental flashing, more importantly,
you’d rather not be the girl who’s wiggling uncomfortably in a look not made for dancing.
Break out the jewel-encrusted party pants that won’t keep you awkwardly bouncing at the mercy of your dress.
You’re the friend-of-the-friend’s +1, and you can’t remember the name of the only other familiar person in the room.
While it may seem safe to comment on the weather, it’s also kind of a snooze.
If you’re not a lover of small talk, come equipped with an instant icebreaker
in the form of statement jewelry, especially placed near your face.
Trust: If there’s a pretty, sparkly object looking back at them,
your new friends will likely remark and you can lead the convo from there.
It’s so much better than bonding over the Polar Vortex.
It’s easy to spot a fellow awkward girl by looking at her hands.
They’re a bit fidgety; they move from a countertop to her hip, now back to the countertop, and then…err, no, play with your hair!
Some of you may choose to cling to a beverage, milking it for the duration of the evening.
But, we prefer a practical fashion solution: the pocketed party dress.
Not only do the side details add dimension to the design, they also serve as the perfect little safety nook for jittery digits.
Let’s just say we’re not the kind of guests who pass up the cheese platter.
Can you dip it? Is it wrapped in prosciutto? We’re in.
Naturally, the foodies of the fête will have a hard time balancing a clutch and soon find themselves
totally out of spare hands when it’s time to shake someone else’s or return a text.
In this case, crossbody carryalls with easy-to-open compartments are key.
You have friends to meet and canapés to indulge in — think of your priorities.”
This article is reposted from Refinery29.com and written by Gina Marinelli.